Sunday, June 21, 2009
Keeping the Passion of love Alive
Imagine that you've decided to build a fire in your fireplace. You carefully choose the logs, the kindling, and after lighting a match to start the fire, you watch over it until you're sure the fire is burning strongly and steadily. Then you sit back and enjoy the comforting warmth, the delightful play of the flames, the magical light. You don't need to be as vigilant about keeping the fire blazing, since it has enough fuel for now. but at some point, when you notice its getting a little colder, or the light is growing dim, you realize that the fire needs your attention again, and so you rouse yourself from whatever you've been doing and add more wood, or adjust the position of the logs so that, once more, the flames can rise high.
Even if you've neglected the fire for a while, even if it appears to have died out, you see that the embers still radiate a deep, orange glow that can only be created by hours of extreme heat. The embers are deceptive, and they contain great power within their quiet light. Although by themselves they produce no flames, they can ignite a newly added piece of wood in seconds, suddenly rekindling the full force of the fire, transforming the dormant coals into a roaring blaze.
We can correlate the passion between two lovers by thinking about what we intuitively know about building and maintaining a fire. When you first meet someone and fall in love, you carefully court and seduce him or her, adding the right amount of intimacy, the perfect amount of commitment until the fire of passion flares up between your hearts and your bodies. For a while, this blaze burns brightly on its own and you grow accustomed to the joy it brings into your life.
But one day, you realize there is less light, less heat between you and your mate, and that in fact, it’s been that way for some time now. You don’t feel the same intense degree of physical attraction, the same desire to unite, and the same stimulation you once felt with each other.
How many people ask themselves, at this critical point in a love affair, the fire of passion has died down simply because no one has been tending it, because no one has added the fuel necessary to keep it burning? How many people walk away from the smoking embers of their marriage, certain that the fire has died out, without noticing that the coals of love still contain enough heat to reignite into flames, if only they are given a chance?
Respect the fire of passion, the fire of love. Understand that to stay alive; it needs to be honored, to be cared for, and to be tended as diligently as you would tend a fire you had built in the wilderness to help keep you warm and sage from harm. Feed the fire of your love with kindness, Communication, appreciation and gratitude, and it will always blaze strong and brightly for you...
A small story that I felt was so true.. That I wanted it here.
-From the Chicken soup for the Romantic Soul